by Eric Todd
A number of years ago, when I was in my late teens, my sister was married to a real tool shed who fancied himself a bad mother. I will from here forward refer to him as “Dick”. He was always trying to impress us with stories about being some kind of a tai kung flung master whom his sensei considered one of the most dangerous men in the world. A pretty big dude, but I later decided that while perhaps he may have been the baddest man in the dojo, it was one that catered to kindergarteners. Well, one day, my brother and I were wrestling in the yard as we often did for conditioning and fun, when “Dick” came up and grabbed me. He clearly was in the mood to show who the alpha-male was, so I dug in with some underhooks and suplexed him to the ground. He lay there whimpering, not wanting any more.
Another time, when I was home on sebatical from college, I was lifting in my parent’s basement. I was warming up on bench with 225 and “Dick” came down the stairs. He cockily indicated that he wished to lift with me. I was fine with that, so I traded places with him to give him a spot. Then, as I unracked the weight, it plummeted to “Dick’s” chest and pinned him down to the bench. I found myself deadlifting all 225 pounds off of him. I was embarrassed for him and ashamed of him, so I suggested that he needed to warm up a little. We dropped the weight down to 170ish. Same result. Finally, we dropped it down to one wheel, 135. “Dick” was able to grind out a rep. After that he made a hasty retreat upstairs.
From that time on, “Dick” no longer challenged me during the remainder of his tenure as my sister’s husband. On many occasions after that,however, I did get to hear about the proverbial “guy in the gym”. This guy was amazing! His arms were definitely bigger than mine. When Dick found out how much I was benching, this guy was doing almost double. I am pretty sure he could curl the whole stack on the nautilus machine. When I asked how much he could squat, “Dick” really didn’t have a frame of reference, so I am pretty sure he said like 1000 pounds, which at the time was world record poundage.
I have said it before, I like physical strength. But in my eyes, it pales in comparison to what lies between your ears. I really do not care what you can lift, if you give your all in whatever arena you are in, you are a strong individual. If you are bested, you will continue to come back and try again and again. Maybe winning, maybe losing, but you don’t give up. Tenacity.
Then there are those weak minded cowards who, when bested, not only give up, they also try and find a way to bring he who has bested him down as well. We have all heard about the guy in the gym. The one at “Dick’s” gym may or may not have existed. But it is for guys like “Dick” that I choose to while my time with doers. Guys who enter the arena. Those who tell themselves that the body can handle things that the mind tries to tell it aren’t possible. Guys who believe. Life is too short to listen to guys like “Dick”.